The Perils of Perception
This is how I see things:

I assume that you see things as I do because it is convenient for me to do so. But maybe you don’t. For example, if you are color-blind, you certainly don’t see things the way I do. I won’t know that unless you tell me or unless our difference becomes obvious in some way. If you are color-blind, I will think that you see things differently than I do, but some will think that there is something wrong with you.
Now imagine that this is how I see things:

How might my life be different then? And imagine that I was the only one, or one of a just a few, who saw things that way. Would you think that there is something wrong with me because I see things differently than most people do? Would I think that there is something wrong with me? Would you think that there was something dangerous about me? Might I be dangerous?
I have learned a lot from people who see things differently than I do, but sometimes I think that those people are just a pain in the ass. And sometimes I think that they are dangerous; and sometimes they are.
Now imagine that the first picture is the way things truly are, and that the second is the way I see things, and that this is how you see things:

This is how it is. I see things the way I see things, and you see things the way you see things, but neither of us sees things the way that they truly are. That is fine, and it might even be great, unless one or both of us insists that the way we see things is the way they truly are.
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Well said. So important to realize.
Beautifully stated!
Man, what a great and simple way to illustrate an important point. It reminds me a bit of R.D. Laing, the British psychologist and his views on “inter-experience”: I have an experience of you and you have an experience of me, but I can never actually experience the experience you have of me nor can you ever actually experience the experience I have of you. That’s why, of course, we need to talk….
Dan´s last blog post…The Power of Accessible Leadership
Funny you should mention R.D. Lang, Dan. His “knots” were much on my mind as I created this post.